July 2023 - Vee Dreams

Breaking the Habit of Comparisons

You may ask, how do I stop doing that. Well, the answer is quite simple. Are you doing the best you can. If the answer is to be yes, then be happy with it. I don’t care if your friends went on four vacations this year if the best you can do is one. Then one it is. Make it a memorable one and keep it moving.

I am not saying that you are not to strive for better or more. I am simply saying that you are to give yourself the credit for what you are doing and simply knowing that you are doing the best you can, should be good enough for you. No one has to live with the decisions you make but you so if you are happy with it then that is what matters.

Decision Making in the Process of Doing the Best You Can

I was speaking to a friend recently about a business decision that they were struggling with. It would mean more money but additional stress. It was also something that they were good at, and the team was grateful to have them join the group. This person eventually decided that it just was not a good decision for them. How to work with Difficult People

Sometimes life is just that simple. In our quest to make others happy we find that we are making decisions that don’t always make us happy. Start today by just knowing that it is your job to make the most of your time on this journey called life. Everything is not for everybody, and you decide what is the best decision for you.

Try not to allow the pressure of others to influence decisions that directly impact you. Remember they will not have to do what they have talked you into. Each day you are given twenty-four hours how and what you choose should always be directed by your principles not others.

Steer Clear of Unhealthy Pressure and Influence while Working towards Doing the Best You Can

Whether you are operating your own business or working for others. Know that you are doing your best. If you are a wife, husband, dad, mom or son or daughter, knowing that you are doing your best is an awesome feeling. Pour that energy into your day as you go about your daily activities. It will impact not only how you feel but your interactions with others.

When someone comes along to compare or compete you are able to shift the conversation to one that is more beneficial knowing that you are doing your best. You can simply reply, “I am happy for so and so…” and mean it. It does not take away from you and your journey. This is growth and maturity in real time. If you are not there don’t despair. We are all a work in progress.

I want to leave you this week to be mindful of how you view yourself. Know that you are doing your best. If you believe you are slacking a little, stretch yourself to do more. Enjoy the journey and until next time my readers continue to ………Live your Dreams out Loud

How to work with difficult people is something you come across all the time. Sometimes the difficult people are unexpected. Sometimes the difficult people are people you love personally but professionally they can be a challenge. Working with difficult people is the focus of this blog post. We will explore how to work with difficult people.

Don’t be Surprised

Recently I was on a business trip that I was very much looking forward to. The group that I was to travel with I had known earlier and anticipated that it would be a pleasant experience. I had many conversations with one of my colleagues about work style and what we believed were shared principles and ideas.

Well, nothing could surprise me more than to find that most of what she presented herself to be was not quite the case and that it turned out that she was not only quite disagreeable but also extremely controlling.

Getting Along when Working with Difficult People

The other colleague was not too surprised because she has experienced this side of her and resigned herself to just comply in silence. I have learned that you are not doing yourself any favors by going along to get along. In business you must be able to advocate for yourself and the things that you stand for. You cannot allow anyone to disrespect you no matter what position or title they hold.

How do you Address the Difficult Person

How you handle this can be tricky. If it is a client that you can choose not to do business with then you are able to do so. If you are in a group situation and the need to work together is a must. Then you can choose to decide how to address the situation professionally.

Choosing to have the Conversation

Many people believe that in order to address a situation it is going to result in some sort of argument. You decide, if it is worth it and how you will address it. You may also decide to just get through the project or event and move on.

In some cases, this may be someone you are going to work with on future assignments and so in that case it may be better to have a conversation with that person. Try not to choose a moment where it may not be productive or when you are at your breaking point.

The Conversation when Working with Difficult People

The conversation should steer clear of finger pointing. Just stick to the issue at hand and if you can add some examples to support what you are saying this may be helpful. Remember everyone handles things differently. If they do not receive what you are saying or simply blow you off, know that you have tried.

Many times, this is not the first time they are hearing these things about themselves, and they may appreciate the fact that you were brave and kind enough to have the conversation with them rather than run around and gossip about them behind their back. The Value of a Positive Attitude

The Lessons Learned when Working with Difficult People

There is always a lesson to every challenge and how to work with difficult people can help you learn some valuable lessons. One lesson is that it allows you to strengthen your ability to have patience and focus on the task at hand. The second lesson is that you could be that difficult person (smile).

We can go through life believing that we are not the problem and that can cause many issues. True growth allows us the freedom to be a blessing to others no matter what environment we find ourselves in. Until next week my readers continue to …….

Live Your Dreams out Loud